Nectar in a Sieve

From Nectar in a Sieve, I learned about how the people view women and how their role has been stereotyped. In the book, women are mostly uneducated and are forced to stay at home, or work in the farms. Although this was in the past, it is still bothering some countries. Your past will never leave you due to the way people on this earth think. If you can change how the people think, you can avoid your past.

Also, in this book, hope is one of the most controversial topics. Hope has been a part of most of the decisions made by Rukmani. For example, when harvesting, she always hoped for the best crops. In my opinion, hope is one of the most unreliable things because you never know what can happen due to your actions, if performed imperfectly. You can’t always hope for something you want without actually moving towards it.




Hope is something that everyone has, but some lose it due to their present circumstances. In Nectar in a Sieve, Markandaya proposes hope in Rukmani’s family in almost every way or form. For example, everyone family in the village hoped for son, for when farming, they hoped to get the best out o what they had laid. It feels like almost every situation Rukmani’s family goes through is reliant on hope.

Having hope is a good, but too much hope can be bad because, soon, the person loses out on himself and gets dependent on hope without realizing. This can cause the person to be literally useless. If something is done incorrectly by a certain person, they would hope for the best instead of fixing their mistake, causing the person to be lazy. They will not do anything by themselves.

In my opinion, hope is not an illusion, but you cannot be completely reliant on it. Usually, what people do is that they think of their way of approaching a situation and hope for what they want as a result. When they don’t get the result they were desiring, they blame luck or God, or something along those lines. In reality, they should blame themselves because their actions caused the result they got.


I have never really thought of this topic, but what I am thinking right now kind of reflects from the religion I believe in. In Jainism, revenge is though as morally wrong. From my experience, parents usually say “if you do that same as the other person, there won’t be any difference between the two of you.” I don’t think “an eye for an eye” can be considered just a response to evil because it makes you the person you want to take revenge on.

One esteemed thinker I researched on was Mahatma Gandhi. His view on “an eye for an eye” was similar to mine. He was devoted to non-violence and followed that “rule” fairly strictly. Gandhi also said “an eye for an eye only makes the whole world blind.”


Strange Reflection

WOOOOOOWWWWWWWWW!!!! The Strange Library was sooo gooooddddddd.I would say it is the best book I ever read, mainly because I barely read.

The way Murakami illustrated the power of memory was so strange, but it kind of made you think deeper about the scene itself. The story itself was pretty strange and the second time . Which librarian forces a person into memorizing books that don’t even interest the person? Specially forcing them to stay for a month in a random, spooky place that was technically nonexistent.

What is the meaning of justice in an unjust world?

This question is answered in the book through the scene of the old man forcing the narrator to stay and read for a month without any reason. I feel like that is just messed up. He is not even that old and his mom might be worried for him. A child who doesn’t show up at home for days. That is just crazy.

Guiding Questions

How should we handle cross-cultural conflicts? UHMMMMM, I would say, DON’T BE LIKE RACHEL. If you “handle” it the way she did, oh boiiiii, you going downnnnn. (I’m going timber. Sorry, I had to). So, what I am trying to say is that, Rachel didn’t;t handle cross-cultural conflicts well. She would always relate whatever she saw in the Congo back to the culture in the US. Also, she always acted as if she was superior to the Congolese, and she never really respected them.

A good way to handle cross-cultural conflicts would be like Ruth May. All you have to do is die. JKJKJKJKJK. Handle cross-cultural conflicts the way Leah did. At least she realizes that Congolese people are very nice-natured. She kinda gives them a chance, in her brain.

In my opinion, you should be open to other cultures, and instead of comparing them to yours, you should look for ways they are unique. It helps you grow as a person and increase your intellect.



  • Like the most?
    • I like Orleanna the most because of her calm and composure.
    • I respect the phases she goes through.
    • She has to go through Nathan’s attitude,  and she has the responsibility of 5 children.
  • Sympathize for the most?
    • Orleanna because she has so many problems within her family. The main problem is Nathan
    • Ruth May’s death had a huge impact on her internally, but she dealt with it in such a nice manner.
  • Most closely identify with personally?
    • Leah, but not completely
    • I can relate to the change she goes through. She becomes more mature and understanding.
    • I can’t relate with her when she wants to be in her father’s shadow.
    • As the book progresses, her view towards Nathan changes, and she starts believing in herself.
  • Think Barbara Kingsolver most identifies with?
    • Orleanna because she is the spine of the book.
    • She keeps the book going on.


OOOOOOOO another interesting topic to talk about.

Everybody changes as a person, but they never discern it. The same happened to me. However, I can’t completely relate to one character of The Poisonwood Bible, but there are some parts from each character to which I can identify with.

I can somewhat relate to Leah the most because of her cycle of deteriorating from her parents. In the beginning of the book, Kingsolver shows Leah as the child you wants to be the best of the siblings. She was like the father’s pet in the start of this novel. As time passes by, she starts to get closer to her relationship with Anatole. Shew feels more comfortable that way.

In my journey of life, there have been times where I feel like sharing things with my friends would be more comfortable than talking about that same topic with my parents. As a kid, you always think that your dad is your hero, and your mom is your best friend. You feel like you can share everything with them, but that is not true. As I grew older, I started to spend more time with my friends than my family, but I didn’t ignore my family. I feel like everyone goes through this phase, and I did too.

Senior-year plays a huge role in my coming-of-age journey because there are going to be many emotional ups and downs. I will have to be responsible because even one mistake has a huge cost. I will have to do everything that my maid did for me on my own. For example, laundry, cooking, ironing etc. The senior-year will teach me things I actually need in life, without a teacher.